We’ve reached the “Sunday Scaries” of summer—that point in mid-August when you can feel the sweet season of summer slipping away. I wanted to pause and take stock of what made this summer so extra delicious. I started writing this as a personal reminder for next year (I often take notes when things go especially well: vacations, projects at work, etc.), but thought I’d share it in case it is helpful for you too!
The Screens ON Rule
Instead of setting a time for screens to go off, we established a time they could come on (typically late afternoon). This simple switch had a triple benefit: it preserved the best weather of the day for outdoor play, it gave us an easy and consistent "no" to early requests, and it provided a guilt-free digital babysitter during those sweltering late-afternoon hours when everyone's energy was waning.
The Case for a Kid-Free Vacation
We love our children dearly, but we've learned that a "family trip" is not the same as a "vacation." This year, we took a trip without them, and it was sublime. I read five whole books in five nights (Sublime!)—a feat I rarely accomplish on a trip spent managing chaos and playing cruise director. Truly relaxing and reconnecting as a couple allowed us to return to full-time summer parenting more refreshed and present.
The Power of a “Wasted” PTO Day
As a teacher, I’m already off in the summer. But the real game-changer was my husband, Adam, taking significant PTO in July and August—not just for big trips, but for ordinary weekdays at home. Having him with us for those chill, unscheduled summer days was a gift, allowing us to just hang out as a family without the pressure of a destination.
Anchors with Lots of Flexibility
Our weekdays had a light but flexible plan. Mid-day activities—swimming, karate, and dance—anchored our Mondays through Thursdays. By scheduling out-of-the-house activities around lunchtime, we left our mornings open for free play and "Mommy School," (see number 5!) and our evenings free for family time. It gave the kids a predictable rhythm without overscheduling their precious summer freedom.
The Launch of “Mommy School”
We kicked off our weekday mornings with the "Branches" curriculum from Busy Toddler, and it was a runaway hit. We completed two units: Classic Tales and Geography. The kids and I gathered at the table to read fairy tales (and write our own!), explore maps, taste-test foods from different continents, and create art. True to my humanities-loving heart, it was a joy to share these subjects with them and build a tradition of learning together.
Our 40-Degree Temperature Hack
While most of our summer days were beautiful mid-80s weather, we had a few scorchers. On those days, we used our secret weapon: the Oregon coast. As soon as Adam finished work, we’d pack up and drive to the ocean. On one recent trip, we experienced a 40-degree temperature difference (and it was still hot enough at the coast for shorts and t-shirts)! It was a powerful reminder of how lucky we are to have such a refreshing escape just a short drive away.
The Pre-Fall Purge
I made huge strides in clearing out things from our home that no longer serve us in this season. The kids even got in on the action, sorting through clothes and toys to pass on to new kids. Starting the busy school season with a fresh, organized slate feels like giving ourselves a head start.
People Over Everything
Perhaps the most important ingredient of all: we spent intentional, quality time with one another, with friends, and with family. We leaned into the slower pace of summer and used that time to connect and make memories.
A great summer isn't about doing everything, but about doing the right things for your family. By trading a frantic pace for a flexible rhythm, we ended the season feeling more connected to each other and ready for the routine ahead. We're heading into the busy fall season not running on empty, but feeling genuinely recharged.